And How Some REACT
They skip classes.
They quit school.
They get poor grades in school.
They require professional help: social worker, therapist, and psychiatrist.
They run away from home.
They do violent things.
They deliberately hurt themselves. (Ex. cutting themselves.)
They make bad choices.
They seek inappropriate attention, both in real life and on the internet.
They seek unrealistic feedback on social media.
They try to challenge themselves unrealistically.
They stop engaging in life.
They sleep all the time.
They bully others who are doing well.
They avoid places and people who support them.
They quit sports teams, stop coming to the organization that has been helping them.
They commit suicide.
They have nightmares.
When they get angry, they hurt someone.
When they get angry, they yell and scream.
They have difficulty connecting with others.
They can’t sleep.
They get pregnant.
They become homeless.
They don’t care about school.
They seek attention, even negative attention.
They surround themselves with negative peers.
They harm themselves.
They party too often.
They are sexually active early, seeking attention.
They get pregnant.
They run away.
They don’t know how to have a healthy relationship with others.
They “act out” on social media.
They contemplate and commit suicide.
Some Related Excerpts from
HUMANS OF NEW YORK by Brandon Stanton.
The book Humans of New York is 428 pages of superlative photos of various people and their “from the heart” comments on their life.
The photo is of a boy about 15.
“What influenced you the most in your life?”
“My principal. Ms. Lopez. When we get in trouble, she doesn’t suspend us. She calls us to her office and explains to us how society was built down around us. And she tells us that each time somebody fails out of school, a new jail cell gets built. And one time she made every student stand up, one at a time, and she told each one of us that we matter.”
The photo is of a boy about 16, obviously overweight.
“They say that you’re supposed to stand up to bullies, but there’s not much you can do when the whole class is like that.”
“Why do they make fun of you?”
“Let’s see. My weight obviously. The fact that I read for fun. Mostly sci-fi and fantasy. I watch Nova. I don’t like sports. You know those loud obnoxious kids you see hanging out in groups, screaming at people? That’s my whole school.”
“So what do they do to you?”
“Just yell at me and throw stuff at me. But I am proud of one thing. Most kids who get picked on completely spaz out at some point and get violent. That hasn’t happened to me yet.”
My life as a “None” and other tales from the ranks of the unaffiliated and the agnostic.
“People like me are on the rise. The “Nones,” those who are not affiliated with any religion, or are agnostic, or just plain atheist, are now almost a quarter of the population, says a recent study out of Duke University. There are 19 million more Nones now than there were in 2007. And at 56 million strong, there are more Americans who are unaffiliated than there are Catholics and mainline Protestants, according to a 2015 Pew Research Report. Fewer than half of young adults ages 18 to 30 are sure God exists. In a few years, the largest “religion” in the US will be None.”
The “Nones” from the Sept. 26 TIME magazine, page 63.