Dear Abby


In this week’s issue

Dear Abby talks to a nonbeliever
College humanist chaplains
Alone…how are we getting along?
A little levity
What readers say about the ebook
National humanist organizations

Dear Abby

The following is a “Dear Abby” column published in hundreds of newspapers during the week of Jan. 18.

DEAR ABBY: I was raised in the Christian faith by my pastor parents. As I reached my early teens, I realized that those beliefs didn’t really fit and I gradually stopped attending church. I stayed away all through college. My time away only solidified, that in terms of belief, Christianity wasn’t for me.
After I graduated this year, I realized I missed the community and ritual of the faith and the church. There are a number of churches in my area, but I feel guilty attending one when I don’t believe in the same things as the other members. My family always taught me to be considerate of the beliefs of the people around me, and it seems dishonest to go to a service and listen to prayers my heart doesn’t embrace.
I’d still like to attend church. Have you any suggestions for what might be a good course of action? Should I go to church or stay home?   — Unorthodox in Ohio

DEAR UNORTHODOX. You don’t have to stay home. Instead, explore a denomination that has no dogma or creed. One in particular, Unitarian Universalism, has been mentioned before in this column. Unitarian Universalists believe in the dignity and worth of every human being, and encourages and supports others in following their personal spiritual paths. If you would like more information, visit

(We publish this because many Unitarians are humanists. And if a humanist attends a church, it probably is a Unitarian church.)


College humanist chaplains

Colleges should consider having a Humanist chaplain

Greg Epstein, Humanist chaplain at Harvard and author of the best selling book, Good Without God, says, “Right now, higher education is failing miserably to provide a place on campus where non-religious students can find purpose, compassion and community.”

Among the colleges that have humanist chaplains are University of Southern California, Harvard, Yale, Columbia, Tufts, Rutgers, Adelphi and Stanford.

Alone…how are we getting along?

Carl Sagan, the late renowned astronomer, said, “The total number of stars in the universe is larger than all the grains of sand on all the beaches of the planet earth.”

Carl Sagan, the late renowned astronomer, said, “The total number of stars in the universe is larger than all the grains of sand on all the beaches of the planet earth.”

As far as we know, we earthlings are the only humans in the universe. And each year we develop more methods for exterminating all of us. And more groups who want to maim and kill others. If we are the only humans in the universe, how would you rate our record of getting along with each other? What should we be doing?


A little levity.

If it weren’t for electricity we would all be watching television by candlelight  — George Gobel

Anytime four New Yorkers get into a cab together without arguing, a bank robbery has just taken place — Johnny Carson

I have just discovered the truth, and I can’t understand why everybody isn’t eager to hear it — Ashleigh Brilliant


What readers say about the ebook, Humanism: The Ten Most Asked Questions

”This concise book will help people realize they don’t have to remain mired in a medieval way of thinking to lead a highly moral, ethical life.” J. G.

“The Q and A format simplifies what may be a confusing subject for some.” L. L.

“It’s refreshing to realize that we have all the tools and wisdom to take care of ourselves as humans without relying on a supernatural being.” P.S.

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National humanist organizations

There are more than 20 national humanist organizations. Here are a few.

The Humanist Society

American Humanist Assn

International Humanist and Ethical Union

The Society for Humanistic Judaism

Center for Inquiry/Council for Secular Humanism

American Ethical Union

The HUUmanist Assn.


Where do our ethics come from?

Humanists believe ethics come from human needs and human interests, tested by experience. They believe values are derived from social contracts that “work,” having proved they are the best way to treat others and to get along together. Over thousands of years, humans have learned things not to do. And things to do to have a safer and happier life. Humanists believe our values come from our experience as humans trying to live together in harmony. Since humanists want a safe and happy life, they believe in values like truthfulness, courage and compassion.

What should a Humanist know about the homeless in their community?

Answer: Read this blog next week!


To be a good person and do good things, it’s not necessary to have a belief in a supernatural being.